What does people want more of in life? Or let me ask, “What
does a friend long for in life?”
A friend longs to be heard when life comes crashing down.
Good friendships improve all aspects of your life,
providing comfort, joy, strengthening your health, providing companionship and
prevent isolation. Not all people can keep themselves from isolating
themselves. They need someone to help them.
When I think of my life and how friends have come and
gone, it makes me sad. I’m asking myself, “have you not done enough to prevent
the friendship from ending?”
Then Jesus comes and assures me that I have done enough.
That season has ended. I have put in so much but the effort was not
appreciated. There were times when I was so lonely; I would then go into
isolation. I would create a pit and then throw myself into it. I would see my
friend go on girly dates with other people and it would hurt my feelings and I
would sink even deeper. I got myself out of that pit when I realised something.
I read a quote of Dr Cindy Trimm
which stuck to me since that day. “Loneliness
is not the absence of people, but the absence of PURPOSE. When you have
purpose, the right people will come.”
I have found my purpose. I have learned to equip myself
in the lonely times. I can now equip others through their lonely moments. Every
person I meet in this lifetime is my assignment. I don’t have to worry about
being dumped by a friend, I can move on when the assignment is over. I don’t
have to worry about girly dates and how hurt I feel when I’m not invited. The assignment
NOW is to focus on the ones who hurt. My girly dates will come when it is God
ordained.
Today, I know a friend when I have one. That friend is
sometimes so hard to define because of stuff that person has gone through.
I ones was so hurt but not because of a friend and I got
a bbm message from a lady. I wanted to share my hurt but God stopped me when
she said, “I am only a bb away if you need
me” My response was, “Every one is a
bb away, and I don’t need that.”
I am a person who picks up the phone and ask how you
doing. I am a person who will go to your house unexpectedly to give my support.
Whether it is in serving you, encourage you or just pray with you.
Technology may have shifted the definition of friend in
recent years, but having hundreds of online friend is not the same as having a
friend you can connect and be in person with. You make new friends via the new
technology yes, but it CANNOT hug
you or cry with you when you need them the most. Friends sharpens one another’s countenance (Proverbs
27:17).
Our survival ones depended on having friends. Yes they
add special memories and hurtful memories which can only make you strong, but
when you have Jesus Christ it all changes. He takes that void and fills it with
purpose.
Off course friendship is a two way street. It brings joy
to your life. When the one is quiet, it is understood. When everyone else
leaves, a friend stays behind.
My prayer for you is to be patient. To love at all times.
To serve at all times and that you will know, you DO NOT have to be the friend
who constantly have to prove yourself. Be the friend you would want a friend to
be to you.
In His love
Leslene
