Hope After Divorce

Very often people who face divorce feel hopeless. Sadly, many who turn to the church for help feel rejected, not welcomed. Many have told me they felt outcast and shunned, even if they were the spouse left behind. Sometimes this is a perception, but sometimes it is very real. Tragically, the Christian army is the only army in the world known to shoot its wounded."...we have fixed our hope on the living God, who is the Savior of all men, especially of believers." - 1 Timothy 4:10

Yes, Scripture teaches that God hates divorce, but just because He hates divorce doesn't mean He hates the divorcee. He loves the divorcee. God hates divorce for many of the same reasons the divorcee hates divorce - most of all, for the pain and suffering it causes in so many lives. There is no doubt that divorce always results from sin, but it is not the unforgivable sin.

Divorce is never what God wants, but Jesus teaches us that we have a God of second chances - a God of forgiveness. When we trust in Christ and confess our sins to the Lord, we begin to realize He loves us and forgives us completely. We can find that total and complete healing in the person of Jesus Christ.

In His Love,

Leslene

Time to Turn on the Light

"I am the Light of the world; he who follows Me will not walk in the darkness, but will have the Light of life." - John 8:12

When you're staying in an unfamiliar place, do you ever awaken in the night and get up without turning on the light? Next thing you know, you're tripping over a suitcase or walking into a table. The last time that happened to me, it was so painful! But when you turn on the light, everything is clear.

A lot of folks are trying to make it through life in darkness--spiritual darkness--and much self-inflicted pain and unnecessary falls take place, because most people in the dark feel they're doing just fine on their own.

But Jesus tells us He's the Light of the world. He means He is the enlightenment about God, man, and life. Without Him, we're in the dark spiritually. We keep stumbling, falling, and feeling frustrated about it all. Hey, isn't it time for some of you folks to turn on the light, really see God, and understand life? If you do, everything will make sense.

In His love,

Leslene

Involved vs Commitment

"...but they gave themselves first to the Lord and then to us in keeping with God's will." - 2 Corinthians 8:5b
A pig and a chicken took an afternoon stroll that led them near their neighborhood Waffle House. They looked up at a sign in the window that advertised the daily special--Ham and Eggs for only R3.00
"Look at that!" said the chicken. "I am involved!"

"It's true that you are involved," replied the pig, "but for me, it's total commitment." 
There weer times in my life that i would start something and be so positive about it, but a few minutes later i would just let go of the idea. There were even times that i would promise to be there for people but in the end i would be too busy to even pick up the phone to say hello, how are you.
It came back to me double when i needed a friend to be there for me. 

Today things are different. I will not commit unless i feel in my spirit this is what i have to do. I AM NO LONGER INVOLVED BUT COMMITTED TO THE END.
How about you? When it comes to your responsibilities, are you just involved or are you committed to give it your all for the good of your TEAM,YOUR FRIENDSHIP, YOUR MARRIAGE, and all concerned? Even more important, are you totally committed to do your best for the glory of God?
SOMEBODY NEEDS YOU TODAY!!!!
The question isn't whether or not people are going to be committed, but rather who is going to get your commitment.


In His love,

Leslene

What A Wife Needs Most From Her Husband

Yesterday's message was about the husband and what he needs most from his wife. 
Ladies, i trust the message helped in some way. Today is about the wife and her needs.


Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church…” - Ephesians 5:25


Dr. James Dobson was asked, “Why are men so insensitive to women’s needs today?” 


He answered, “I question whether men have really changed all that much. I doubt if men ever responded as women preferred. Did the farmer of a century ago come in from the fields to say, ‘Tell me how it went with the kids today?' No. He was as oblivious to his wife’s nature then as husbands are today.” 


So, men, if you’re struggling to meet your wife’s needs, the Bible gives a few tips as to what they need: 


PHYSICAL AFFECTION:
Not just sex, but a tender touch-a few hugs all through the day. 


SECURITY:
A wife desires a sense of security, physically, financially and emotionally. 


UNDERSTANDING:
This means listening more than telling her what to do. 


LET HER KNOW SHE'S BEAUTIFUL:
She needs reassurance in a society of constant comparison. 


SPIRITUAL LEADERSHIP:
Not dictatorships, but servant leadership, like Christ for His church.


These are what a wife needs most from her husband. 


ONE MORE THING TO THE MEN AS A REMINDER.
I know those men who has a job arises very early and they sometimes feel that everything has to be given to them on a platter. Well husbands, this is what the word says:


Proverbs 31:15 "She also arises while it is yet night, and provides food for her household,..."


So remember, whether she's a housewife or work as an employee, remember Proverbs 31:15


In His love,


Leslene

What A Man Needs Most From His Wife

It may hurt, but it's true. I know what i'm talking about.

“…as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.” - Ephesians 5:24

So many wives are clueless about what their husbands need the most. They often make the mistake of thinking that his greatest need is like hers—the need for romantic love. But the husband’s greatest need is for respect. This is how God has wired him. So wives, how can you live this out? 

PRAISE:
Build him up in a world where he often gets beaten down. Just think how much you like to hear the words,”I love you,” and praise him just that much and more.

SEEK TO BE HIS BEST FRIEND: 
With his wife, he needs support not competition. Men as a whole, are not as relational and verbal as women. 

Have a willingness to follow his lead. You’re kidding! In the 21st century you want me to follow his lead? 

Well, if this makes you mad, argue with God, not me. It’s His Book. This is how you really respect your husband. When he senses this, it’s amazing how much he will strive to please you and respect what you have to say. 

In His love,
Leslene

He's not on his knees yet - CeCe Winans

He doesn't know his worth
Wears the saddest smile on earth
But he denies it
Love is reaching out to him
But he won't let it in
He defies it
He defies it

[Refrain]
He's not ready
He's not on his knees yet
He's too strong to be weak
Show him mercy
He's not on his knees yet
Let him break please
Make him better
Put the pieces back together

He thinks that he's alone
I have walked the road the he's on
And I know he's searching
Looking everywhere but up
He can't fill his empty cup
So he keeps hurting
He keeps hurting

[Refrain]
He's not ready
He's not on his knees yet
He's too strong to be weak
Show him mercy
He's not on his knees yet
Let him break please
Make him better
Put the pieces back together
Help him please
He's not on his knees...
Yet

Be The Change and he will be on his knees

Who doesn't want a praying husband? I guess every woman wants one.

When I came to the Lord, I so much wanted my husband to be this mighty man of God. I wanted it to happen immediately. How many of you ladies reading this wants it more than ever. Well, that was what I wanted. My husband served God but to me he was doing things to slow. I wanted him to start praying the way I did, to start serving God the way I did. What a hypocrite I was. One day God spoke to me, “You/Leslene have to change first. You be the example.” I said, “but God I have changed. I do pray every day, I do serve You the right way.” God’s words to me, “NO YOU ARE NOT DOING IT WITH A PURE HEART, YOU WANT TO BE SEEN BY YOUR HUSBAND AND MAKE HIM FEEL BAD.”  I couldn’t believe that God was saying that to me, but it was true. How many of you want to be seen but yet you do not do it with a pure heart?

I started listening to a song sung by CeCe Winans “He’s not on his knees yet” This song spoke to my heart and I knew exactly what she was singing about. This song became my favorite and it helped me just to lay my concerns before God and I started to understand my husband’s position.

While singing the song I automatically asked God to work in his life and to help me accept that all people will never be the same. I thanked God for his life and I asked for forgiveness that I judged my husband. I thought I was the one who was mature but in actual fact my husband was the mature one. I wanted things to happen on my terms and not God’s. Last night(2^nd March 2011) I decided to listen to a few old gospel songs and I came across this beautiful song. I couldn’t even remember when last I listened to it. When I look at my husband now and define the then moment, I can only say WOW!!!! And thank you Lord. My husband has turned into this awesome man of God who is so beautiful in Christ and who has turned into this handsome man who is so strong and who would never ever try to change any person. I thank God for commanding me to be the change in order for my husband to change. Yes, my husband went through some emotional things but God was there with him all the way. The song says that “he thinks that he’s alone”, why did he feel that way? He felt so because I was not on his side, I didn’t allow him to grow in God’s time. God was there carrying him when he felt alone.

I can now say that my husband was always strong, but I made him weak and people saw that. God saw that, but when he was weak, his weakness was made perfect in God’s strength. We pray so long for things to change, but we don’t realize that when we leave it in God’s hands the change come quicker than we ever imagine. God reminded me of the scripture in:

1Peter 3:8-9 “But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day. ⁹ The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.”

That is a promise from God. Think about what you’re doing in your husband, child or friends life that is preventing you from growing spiritually. Forget about the next person’s faults and look to Jesus to remove your faults.

In His Love,

Leslene