What A Man Needs Most From His Wife

It may hurt, but it's true. I know what i'm talking about.

“…as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.” - Ephesians 5:24

So many wives are clueless about what their husbands need the most. They often make the mistake of thinking that his greatest need is like hers—the need for romantic love. But the husband’s greatest need is for respect. This is how God has wired him. So wives, how can you live this out? 

PRAISE:
Build him up in a world where he often gets beaten down. Just think how much you like to hear the words,”I love you,” and praise him just that much and more.

SEEK TO BE HIS BEST FRIEND: 
With his wife, he needs support not competition. Men as a whole, are not as relational and verbal as women. 

Have a willingness to follow his lead. You’re kidding! In the 21st century you want me to follow his lead? 

Well, if this makes you mad, argue with God, not me. It’s His Book. This is how you really respect your husband. When he senses this, it’s amazing how much he will strive to please you and respect what you have to say. 

In His love,
Leslene

He's not on his knees yet - CeCe Winans

He doesn't know his worth
Wears the saddest smile on earth
But he denies it
Love is reaching out to him
But he won't let it in
He defies it
He defies it

[Refrain]
He's not ready
He's not on his knees yet
He's too strong to be weak
Show him mercy
He's not on his knees yet
Let him break please
Make him better
Put the pieces back together

He thinks that he's alone
I have walked the road the he's on
And I know he's searching
Looking everywhere but up
He can't fill his empty cup
So he keeps hurting
He keeps hurting

[Refrain]
He's not ready
He's not on his knees yet
He's too strong to be weak
Show him mercy
He's not on his knees yet
Let him break please
Make him better
Put the pieces back together
Help him please
He's not on his knees...
Yet

Be The Change and he will be on his knees

Who doesn't want a praying husband? I guess every woman wants one.

When I came to the Lord, I so much wanted my husband to be this mighty man of God. I wanted it to happen immediately. How many of you ladies reading this wants it more than ever. Well, that was what I wanted. My husband served God but to me he was doing things to slow. I wanted him to start praying the way I did, to start serving God the way I did. What a hypocrite I was. One day God spoke to me, “You/Leslene have to change first. You be the example.” I said, “but God I have changed. I do pray every day, I do serve You the right way.” God’s words to me, “NO YOU ARE NOT DOING IT WITH A PURE HEART, YOU WANT TO BE SEEN BY YOUR HUSBAND AND MAKE HIM FEEL BAD.”  I couldn’t believe that God was saying that to me, but it was true. How many of you want to be seen but yet you do not do it with a pure heart?

I started listening to a song sung by CeCe Winans “He’s not on his knees yet” This song spoke to my heart and I knew exactly what she was singing about. This song became my favorite and it helped me just to lay my concerns before God and I started to understand my husband’s position.

While singing the song I automatically asked God to work in his life and to help me accept that all people will never be the same. I thanked God for his life and I asked for forgiveness that I judged my husband. I thought I was the one who was mature but in actual fact my husband was the mature one. I wanted things to happen on my terms and not God’s. Last night(2^nd March 2011) I decided to listen to a few old gospel songs and I came across this beautiful song. I couldn’t even remember when last I listened to it. When I look at my husband now and define the then moment, I can only say WOW!!!! And thank you Lord. My husband has turned into this awesome man of God who is so beautiful in Christ and who has turned into this handsome man who is so strong and who would never ever try to change any person. I thank God for commanding me to be the change in order for my husband to change. Yes, my husband went through some emotional things but God was there with him all the way. The song says that “he thinks that he’s alone”, why did he feel that way? He felt so because I was not on his side, I didn’t allow him to grow in God’s time. God was there carrying him when he felt alone.

I can now say that my husband was always strong, but I made him weak and people saw that. God saw that, but when he was weak, his weakness was made perfect in God’s strength. We pray so long for things to change, but we don’t realize that when we leave it in God’s hands the change come quicker than we ever imagine. God reminded me of the scripture in:

1Peter 3:8-9 “But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day. ⁹ The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.”

That is a promise from God. Think about what you’re doing in your husband, child or friends life that is preventing you from growing spiritually. Forget about the next person’s faults and look to Jesus to remove your faults.

In His Love,

Leslene

My All, No Strings Attached

So many times I tried to please people. So many times I pretended to like the company and all just to be accepted. How blind can a person be? I always thought I would never fit in because I was not as pretty as the other girls. I really had this terrible battle in my mind. I wanted a relationship with friends instead of with God.

Paul says in Galatians 1:10 “For am I now trying to win the favor of people, or God? Or am I striving to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a slave of Christ.”

What a powerful scripture that touched me so deeply. My mind was telling me, don’t sit at home go to your friends house. There you will hear all the juicy stories. After a awhile I was wondering why the friends had this funny attitude towards me. This is what God said:

“Seldom set your foot in your neighbor’s house, otherwise, he’ll get sick of you and hate you.”

 Proverbs 25:17

This is what my friends thought of me. I made a nuisance of myself, but they never told me. They started talking behind my back. My friend, you who read this remember if your friends can talk about other people, they can talk about you in your absence.

Be very careful which company you keep.

Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good morals. Become right-minded and stop sinning, because some people are ignorant about God. I say this to your shame.” 1Corinthians 15:33-34

Relationships are extremely important in the life of every woman. And because woman are inclined to be sentimental, we are happy and fulfilled only when we have a successful relationship with someone.

However, all relationships in your life will fall into place only when you are in the right relationship with God. God is a jealous God who requires absolute faithfulness from us.

Work on your relationship with God first; make absolutely certain that nothing else is gradually taking his place in your life. Then you can use God’s guidelines to love the people in your life and care for the.

Are you making your friends god’s of your life like I did? God will not tolerate other gods. He wants to be the most important person in your life and the rest will follow.

He is an eternal God who gives Himself totally to each of His children. He does not have to divide Himself to give everyone a fragment, but He gives Himself totally to everyone as if there is only that one person. This I experienced when I made a choice to give God my all. I can truly say, i have not arrived but i am on my way. LESLENE IS A WORK IN PROGRESS!!

Are you willing to do that? Selah!

In His love,

Leslene

Living Together

"Commit your way to the LORD, trust also in Him, and He will do it." NAS - Psalm 37:5

As of 2005, 4.85 million unmarried couples were living together. In June of 2001, SA Today revealed the disturbing results of a poll about how twenty-somethings in South African's feel about living together. Sixty-two percent said living together before marriage is a good way to avoid divorce. And forty-three percent (almost half) said they would only marry someone if that person agreed to live together first. These are troubling statistics that show a deep-seated fear of commitment and trust in marriage. But it is an understandable result of so many who were scarred by their own parents' divorce or a troubled home.

Couples living together want sex, companionship, and love. They'll get sex and companionship, but they'll never experience real love without commitment. For without commitment, there is no real love. Living together, by definition, is always looking for a way out. No commitment. No trust. No real love.

God's way is love and commitment first, and then companionship and sex. And that sex and companionship will be far better because of your trust in Him and in your spouse.

In His love,     

Mary - What Great Faith!

"But Mary treasured all these things, pondering them in her heart." - Luke 2:19

The Bible could never be accused of whitewashing the heroes of the faith. Abraham, Jacob, Moses, David, and Peter all had some pretty serious flaws and failures. When we come across a biblical personality who had no recorded obvious flaws and sins, we take note. Mary, the mother of Jesus, is one of those who was always found faithful. And what faith she had! She was a Jewish teenage virgin visited by an angel, and told she would give birth to God's son.

I love Mary's realness. She initially responded like any teenage virgin would today. Disbelief, shock , bewilderment -- probably wondering what her fiance and her family would think. She asked, "How can this be since I am a virgin?" But after the initial shock, she chose to believe God's Word. She's the first to believe in Jesus as her Savior and Lord -- while she carried Him in her womb.

She's the true first lady of the faith. Do you believe as Mary did? What God's word says about Jesus is true

In His Love,

Where Does Your Shadow Fall?

"Be imitators of me, brothers and sisters, and watch carefully those who are living this way, just as you have us as an example." - Philippians 3:17

A Bible School teacher told me about a time she noticed a boy sitting in the hall with a stern look on his face barking orders to the other children. "What are you doing?" she asked. "I'm pretending I'm the pastor," he said. "How are you playing the pastor?" He explained, "I ain't doing nothing. I'm just telling everybody else what to do!"

We sometimes never know where our shadows fall and how they influence others. Martin Luther cast a long shadow over Germany, Europe and over the world - a long shadow for good. About 500 years later, Adolph Hitler also cast a long shadow over Germany, Europe and over the world...a devastatingly evil shadow. Two lives, two men; one filled with the Spirit of the Lord, one filled with the spirit of the devil.

You will probably never influence the entire world like Luther or Hitler, but I guarantee you will have tremendous influence on some part of it. It may be as a parent, co-worker, neighbor, or friend. It may be as a coach or teacher - or even as a fifth grader being a role model for a 1st grader. You won't always be conscious of where your shadow falls, but the fact is that you touch many lives while walking this earth.

What kind of shadow do you cast? Is it for good or for bad? Is it to curse or to bless? Is it to encourage or to discourage? Only your shadow knows.